David had paid due respect to the memory of Saul his prince and
 Jonathan his friend, and what he did was as much his praise as theirs;
 he is now considering what is to be done next. Saul is dead, now
 therefore David arise. 
 I. By direction from God he went up to Hebron, and was there anointed
 king,
 2 Samuel 2:1-4.
 II. He returned thanks to the men of Jabesh-Gilead for burying Saul,
 2 Samuel 2:5-7.
 III. Ishbosheth, the son of Saul, is set up in opposition to him,
 2 Samuel 2:8-11.
 IV. A warm encounter happens between David's party and Ishbosheth's, in
 which,
 1. Twelve of each side engaged hand to hand and were all slain,
 2 Samuel 2:12-16.
 2. Saul's party was beaten, 
 
 2 Samuel 2:17.
 3. Asahel, on David's side, was slain by Abner, 
 
 2 Samuel 2:18-23.
 4. Joab, at Abner's request, sounds a retreat,
 
 2 Samuel 2:24-28.
 5. Abner makes the best of his way
 (2 Samuel 2:29),
 and the loss on both sides is computed,
 
 2 Samuel 2:3-=32.
 So that here we have an account of a civil war in Israel, which, in
 process of time, ended in the complete settlement of David on the
 throne.
 
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
 
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 1  And it came to pass after this, that David enquired of the
 LORD, saying, Shall I go up into any of the cities of Judah? And
 the LORD said unto him, Go up. And David said, Whither shall I go
 up? And he said, Unto Hebron.
   2 So David went up thither, and his two wives also, Ahinoam the
 Jezreelitess, and Abigail Nabal's wife the Carmelite.
   3 And his men that were with him did David bring up, every
 man with his household: and they dwelt in the cities of Hebron.
   4 And the men of Judah came, and there they anointed David king
 over the house of Judah. And they told David, saying, That the
 men of Jabesh-gilead were they that buried Saul.
   5 And David sent messengers unto the men of Jabesh-gilead, and
 said unto them, Blessed be ye of the LORD, that ye have shewed
 this kindness unto your lord, even unto Saul, and have buried
 him.
   6 And now the LORD shew kindness and truth unto you: and I also
 will requite you this kindness, because ye have done this thing.
   7 Therefore now let your hands be strengthened, and be ye
 valiant: for your master Saul is dead, and also the house of
 Judah have anointed me king over them.
 
       
 When Saul and Jonathan were dead, though David knew himself anointed to 
 be king, and now saw his way very clear, yet he did not immediately 
 send messengers through all the coasts of Israel to summon all people 
 to come in and swear allegiance to him, upon pain of death, but 
 proceeded leisurely; for he that believeth doth not make haste, but 
 waits God's time for the accomplishment of God's promises. Many had 
 come in to his assistance from several tribes while he continued at 
 Ziklag, as we find 
 
 (1 Chronicles 12:1-22),
 and with such a force he might have come in by conquest. But he that
 will rule with meekness will not rise with violence. Observe here,
       
 I. The direction he sought and had from God in this critical juncture, 
 
 2 Samuel 2:1.
 He doubted not of success, yet he used proper means, both divine and
 human. Assurance of hope in God's promise will be so far from 
 slackening that it will quicken pious endeavours. If I be elected to 
 the crown of life, it does not follow, Then I will do nothing; but, 
 Then I will do all that he directs me, and follow the guidance of him 
 who chose me. This good use David made of his election, and so will all 
 whom God has chosen.
 1. David, according to the precept, acknowledged God in his way. 
 He enquired of the Lord by the breast-plate of judgment, which Abiathar 
 brought to him. We must apply to God not only when we are in distress, 
 but even when the world smiles upon us and second causes work in favour 
 of us. His enquiry was, Shall I go up to any of the cities of 
 Judah? Shall I stir hence? Though Ziklag be in ruins, he will not 
 quit it without direction from God. "If I stir hence, Shall I go to 
 one of the cities of Judah?" not limiting God to them (if God 
 should so direct him, he would go to any of the cities of Israel), but 
 thus expressing his prudence (in the cities of Judah he would find most 
 friends), and his modesty--he would look no further at present than his
 own tribe. In all our motions and removals it is comfortable to see God 
 going before us; and we may, if by faith and prayer we set him before 
 us. 
 2. God, according to the promise, directed his path, bade him go up, 
 told him whither, unto Hebron, a priest's city, one of the cities of 
 refuge, so it was to David, and an intimation that God himself would be 
 to him a little sanctuary. The sepulchres of the patriarchs, adjoining 
 to Hebron, would remind him of the ancient promise, on which God had 
 caused him to hope. God sent him not to Bethlehem, his own city, 
 because that was little among the thousands of Judah
 (Micah 5:2),
 but to Hebron, a more considerable place, and which perhaps was then as
 the county-town of that tribe.
       
 II. The care he took of his family and friends in his removal to 
 Hebron. 
 
 1. He took his wives with him
 
 (2 Samuel 2:2),
 that, as they had been companions with him in tribulation, they might
 be so in the kingdom. It does not appear that as yet he had any 
 children; his first was born in Hebron,
 2 Samuel 3:2.
 2. He took his friends and followers with him, 
 
 2 Samuel 2:3.
 They had accompanied him in his wanderings, and therefore, when he
 gained a settlement, they settled with him. Thus, if we suffer with 
 Christ, we shall reign with him,
 2 Timothy 2:12.
 Nay, Christ does more for his good soldiers than David could do for
 his; David found lodging for them--They dwelt in the cities of 
 Hebron, and adjacent towns; but to those who continue with 
 Christ in his temptations he appoints a kingdom, and will feast 
 them at his own table,
 Luke 22:29,30.
       
 III. The honour done him by the men of Judah: They anointed him king 
 over the house of Judah, 
 
 2 Samuel 2:4.
 The tribe of Judah had often stood by itself more than any other of the
 tribes. In Saul's time it was numbered by itself as a distinct body
 (1 Samuel 15:4)
 and those of this tribe had been accustomed to act separately. They did
 so now; yet they did it for themselves only; they did not pretend to 
 anoint him king over all Israel (as
 Judges 9:22),
 but only over the house of Judah. The rest of the tribes might
 do as they pleased, but, as for them and their house, they would be 
 ruled by him whom God had chosen. See how David rose gradually; he was
 first anointed king in reversion, then in possession of 
 one tribe only, and at last of all the tribes. Thus the kingdom of the 
 Messiah, the Son of David, is set up by degrees; he is Lord of all by 
 divine designation, but we see not yet all things put under him, 
 
 Hebrews 2:8.
 David's reigning at first over the house of Judah only was a tacit
 intimation of Providence that his kingdom would in a short time be 
 reduced to that again, as it was when the ten tribes revolted from his 
 grandson; and it would be an encouragement to the godly kings of Judah 
 that David himself at first reigned over Judah only.
       
 IV. The respectful message he sent to the men of Jabesh-Gilead, to 
 return them thanks for their kindness to Saul. Still he studies to 
 honour the memory of his predecessor, and thereby to show that he was 
 far from aiming at the crown from any principle of ambition or enmity 
 to Saul, but purely because he was called of God to it. It was told him 
 that the men of Jabesh-Gilead buried Saul, perhaps by some that thought 
 he would be displeased at them as over-officious. But he was far from 
 that. 
 1. He commends them for it, 
 
 2 Samuel 2:5.
 According as our obligations were to love and honour any while they
 lived, we ought to show respect to their remains (that is, their 
 bodies, names, and families) when they are dead. "Saul was your lord," 
 says David, "and therefore you did well to show him this kindness and 
 do him this honour."
 2. He prays to God to bless them for it, and to recompense it to them:
 Blessed are you, and blessed may you be of the Lord, who 
 will deal kindly with those in a particular manner that dealt kindly 
 with the dead, as it is in 
 
 Ruth 1:8.
 Due respect and affection shown to the bodies, names, and families of
 those that are dead, in conscience towards God, is a piece of charity 
 which shall in no wise lose its reward: The Lord show kindness and 
 truth to you
 (2 Samuel 2:6),
 that is, kindness according to the promise. What kindness God shows is
 in truth, what one may trust to. 
 3. He promises to make them amends for it: I also will requite
 you. He does not turn them over to God for a recompence that he may 
 excuse himself from rewarding them. Good wishes are good things, and 
 instances of gratitude, but they are too cheap to be rested in where 
 there is an ability to do more. 
 4. He prudently takes this opportunity to gain them to his interest, 
 
 2 Samuel 2:7.
 They had paid their last respects to Saul, and he would have them to be
 the last: "The house of Judah have anointed me king, and it will 
 be your wisdom to concur with them and in that to be valiant." We must 
 not so dote on the dead, how much soever we have valued them, as to 
 neglect or despise the blessings we have in those that survive, whom 
 God has raised up to us in their stead.
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
 
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 8  But Abner the son of Ner, captain of Saul's host, took
 Ishbosheth the son of Saul, and brought him over to Mahanaim;
   9 And made him king over Gilead, and over the Ashurites, and
 over Jezreel, and over Ephraim, and over Benjamin, and over all
 Israel.
   10 Ishbosheth Saul's son was forty years old when he began to
 reign over Israel, and reigned two years. But the house of Judah
 followed David.
   11 And the time that David was king in Hebron over the house of
 Judah was seven years and six months.
   12 And Abner the son of Ner, and the servants of Ishbosheth the
 son of Saul, went out from Mahanaim to Gibeon.
   13 And Joab the son of Zeruiah, and the servants of David, went
 out, and met together by the pool of Gibeon: and they sat down,
 the one on the one side of the pool, and the other on the other
 side of the pool.
   14 And Abner said to Joab, Let the young men now arise, and
 play before us. And Joab said, Let them arise.
   15 Then there arose and went over by number twelve of Benjamin,
 which pertained to Ishbosheth the son of Saul, and twelve of
 the servants of David.
   16 And they caught every one his fellow by the head, and
 thrust his sword in his fellow's side; so they fell down
 together: wherefore that place was called Helkath-hazzurim, which
 is in Gibeon.
   17 And there was a very sore battle that day; and Abner was
 beaten, and the men of Israel, before the servants of David.
 
       
 Here is, 
 I. A rivalship between two kings--David, whom God made king, and 
 Ishbosheth, whom Abner made king. One would have thought, when Saul was 
 slain, and all his sons that had sense and spirit enough to take the 
 field with him, David would come to the throne without any opposition, 
 since all Israel knew, not only how he had signalized himself, but how 
 manifestly God had designated him to it; but such a spirit of 
 contradiction is there, in the devices of men, to the counsels of God, 
 that such a weak and silly thing as Ishbosheth, who was not thought fit 
 to go with his father to the battle, shall yet be thought fit to 
 succeed him in the government, rather than David shall come peaceably 
 to it. Herein David's kingdom was typical of the Messiah's, against 
 which the heathens rage and the rulers take counsel,
 Psalms 2:1,2.
 1. Abner was the person who set up Ishbosheth in competition with
 David, perhaps in his zeal for the lineal succession (since they must 
 have a king like the nations, in this they must be like them, 
 that the crown must descend from father to son), or rather in his 
 affection to his own family and relations (for he was Saul's uncle), 
 and because he had no other way to secure to himself the post of honour 
 he was in, as captain of the host. See how much mischief the pride and
 ambition of one man may be the occasion of. Ishbosheth would never have 
 set up himself if Abner had not set him up, and made a tool of him to 
 serve his own purposes. 
 2. Mahanaim, the place where he first made his claim, was on the other
 side Jordan, where it was thought David had the least interest, and 
 being at a distance from his forces they might have time to strengthen 
 themselves. But having set up his standard there, the unthinking people 
 of all the tribes of Israel (that is, the generality of them) submitted 
 to him
 (2 Samuel 2:9),
 and Judah only was entirely for David. This was a further trial of the
 faith of David in the promise of God, and of his patience, whether he 
 could wait God's time for the performance of that promise. 
 3. Some difficulty there is about the time of the continuance of this
 competition. David reigned about seven years over Judah only
 (2 Samuel 2:11), 
 and yet
 
 (2 Samuel 2:10)
 Ishbosheth reigned over Israel but two years: before those two years,
 or after, or both, it was in general for the house of Saul
 (2 Samuel 3:6),
 and not any particular person of that house, that Abner declared. Or
 these two years he reigned before the war broke out 
 
 (2 Samuel 2:12),
 which continued long, even the remaining five years,
 2 Samuel 3:1.
       
 II. An encounter between their two armies.
       
 1. It does not appear that either side brought their whole force into 
 the field, for the slaughter was but small, 
 
 2 Samuel 2:30. 
 We may wonder,
 (1.) That the men of Judah did not appear and act more vigorously for
 David, to reduce all the nation into obedience to him; but, it is 
 likely, David would not suffer them to act offensively, choosing rather 
 to wait till the thing would do itself or rather till God would do it 
 for him, without the effusion of Israelitish blood; for to him, as a 
 type of Christ, that was very precious, 
 
 Psalms 72:14.
 Even those that were his adversaries he looked upon as his subjects,
 and would treat them accordingly.
 (2.) That the men of Israel could in a manner stand neuter, and sit
 down tamely under Ishbosheth, for so many years, especially considering 
 what characters many of the tribes displayed at this time (as we find,
 1 Chronicles 12:23,
 &c.): Wise men, mighty men, men of valour, expert in war, and
 not of double heart, and yet for seven years together, for aught that 
 appears, most of them seemed indifferent in whose hand the public 
 administration was. Divine Providence serves its own purposes by the 
 stupidity of men at some times and the activity of the same persons at 
 other times; they are unlike themselves, and yet the motions of 
 Providence are uniform.
       
 2. In this battle Abner was the aggressor. David sat still to see how 
 the matter would fall, but the house of Saul, and Abner at the head of 
 it, gave the challenge, and they went by the worst. Therefore go not 
 forth hastily to strive, nor be forward to begin quarrels, lest 
 thou know not what to do in the end thereof, 
 
 Proverbs 25:8.
 A fool's lips and hands enter into contention.
       
 3. The seat of the war was Gibeon. Abner chose it because it was in the 
 lot of Benjamin, where Saul had the most friends; yet, since he offered 
 battle, Joab, David's general, would not decline it, but there joined 
 issue with him, and met him by the pool of Gibeon, 
 
 2 Samuel 2:13. 
 David's cause, being built upon God's promise, feared not the
 disadvantages of the ground. The pool between them gave both sides time 
 to deliberate.
       
 4. The engagement was at first proposed by Abner, and accepted by Joab, 
 to be between twelve and twelve of a side. 
 (1.) It should seem this trial of skill began in sport. Abner made the
 motion
 (2 Samuel 2:14):
 Let the young men arise and play before us, as gladiators.
 Perhaps Saul had used his men to these barbarous pastimes, like a 
 tyrant indeed, and Abner had learnt of him to make a jest of wounds and 
 death and divert himself with the scenes of blood and horror. He meant, 
 "Let them fight before us," when he said, "Let them play 
 before us." Fools thus make a mock at sin. but he is 
 unworthy the name of a man that can be thus prodigal of human blood, 
 that can thus throw about firebrands, arrows, and death, and 
 say, Am not I in sport? 
 
 Proverbs 26:18,19.
 Joab, having been bred up under David, had so much wisdom as not to
 make such a proposal, yet had not resolution enough to resist and 
 gainsay it when another made it; for he stood upon a point of honour, 
 and thought it a blemish to his reputation to refuse a challenge, and 
 therefore said, Let them arise; not that he was fond of the 
 sport, or expected that the duels would be decisive, but he would not 
 be hectored by his antagonist. How many precious lives have thus been 
 sacrificed to the caprices of proud men! Twelve of each side were 
 accordingly called out as champions to enter the lists, a double jury 
 of life and death, not of others', but their own; and the champions on 
 Abner's side seem to have been most forward, for they took the field 
 first
 (2 Samuel 2:15),
 having perhaps been bred up in a foolish ambition thus to serve the
 humour of their commander-in-chief. But,
 (2.) However it began, it ended in blood
 
 (2 Samuel 2:16):
 They thrust every man his sword into his fellow's side (spurred
 on by honour, not by enmity); so they fell down together, that 
 is, all the twenty-four were slain, such an equal match were they for 
 one another, and so resolute, that neither side would either beg or 
 give quarter; they did as it were by agreement (says Josephus) 
 dispatch one another with mutual wounds. Those that strike at other 
 men's lives often throw away their own and death only conquers and 
 rides in triumph. The wonderful obstinacy of both sides was remembered 
 in the name given to the place: Helkath-hazzurim--the field 
 of rocky men, men that were not only strong in body, but of firm 
 and unshaken constancy, that stirred not at the sight of death. Yet 
 the stout-hearted were spoiled, and slept their sleep, 
 
 Psalms 76:5. 
 Poor honour for men to purchase at so vast an expense! Those that lose
 their lives for Christ shall find them.
       
 5. The whole army at length engaged, and Abner's forces were routed, 
 
 2 Samuel 2:17.
 The former was a drawn battle, in which all were killed on both sides,
 and therefore they must put it upon another trial, in which (as it 
 often happens) those that gave the challenge went away with loss.
 David had God on his side; his side therefore was victorious.
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
 
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 18  And there were three sons of Zeruiah there, Joab, and
 Abishai, and Asahel: and Asahel was as light of foot as a wild
 roe.
   19 And Asahel pursued after Abner; and in going he turned not
 to the right hand nor to the left from following Abner.
   20 Then Abner looked behind him, and said, Art thou Asahel?
 And he answered, I am.
   21 And Abner said to him, Turn thee aside to thy right hand or
 to thy left, and lay thee hold on one of the young men, and take
 thee his armour. But Asahel would not turn aside from following
 of him.
   22 And Abner said again to Asahel, Turn thee aside from
 following me: wherefore should I smite thee to the ground? how
 then should I hold up my face to Joab thy brother?
   23 Howbeit he refused to turn aside: wherefore Abner with the
 hinder end of the spear smote him under the fifth rib, that the
 spear came out behind him; and he fell down there, and died in
 the same place: and it came to pass, that as many as came to
 the place where Asahel fell down and died stood still.
   24 Joab also and Abishai pursued after Abner: and the sun went
 down when they were come to the hill of Ammah, that lieth
 before Giah by the way of the wilderness of Gibeon.
 
       
 We have here the contest between Abner and Asahel. Asahel, the brother 
 of Joab and cousin-german to David, was one of the principal commanders 
 of David's forces, and was famous for swiftness in running: he was 
 as light of foot as a wild roe 
 
 (2 Samuel 2:18);
 this he got the name of by swift pursuing, not swift flying. Yet, we
 may suppose, he was not comparable to Abner as a skilful experienced 
 soldier; we must therefore observe,
       
 I. How rash he was in aiming to make Abner his prisoner. He pursued 
 after him, and no other, 
 
 2 Samuel 2:19.
 Proud of his relation to David and Joab, his own swiftness, and the
 success of his party, no less a trophy of victory would now serve the 
 young warrior than Abner himself, either slain or bound, which he 
 thought would put an end to the war and effectually open David's way to 
 the throne. This made him very eager in the pursuit, and careless of 
 the opportunities he had of seizing others in his way, on his right 
 hand and on his left; his eye was on Abner only. The design was brave, 
 had he been par negotio--equal to its accomplishment: but let 
 not the swift man glory in his swiftness, any more than the strong man 
 in his strength; magnis excidit ausis--he perished in an attempt too 
 vast for him.
       
 II. How generous Abner was in giving him notice of the danger he 
 exposed himself to, and advising him not to meddle to his own 
 hurt, 
 
 2 Chronicles 25:19.
 1. He bade him content himself with a less prey 
 
 (2 Samuel 2:21):
 "Lay hold of one of the young men, plunder him and make him thy
 prisoner, meddle with thy match, but pretend not to one who is so much 
 superior to thee." It is wisdom in all contests to compare our own 
 strength with that of our adversaries, and to take heed of being 
 partial to ourselves in making the comparison, lest we prove in the 
 issue enemies to ourselves,
 Luke 14:31.
 2. He begged of him not to put him upon the necessity of slaying him in
 his own defence, which he was very loth to do, but must do rather than 
 be slain by him, 
 
 2 Samuel 2:22.
 Abner, it seems, either loved Joab or feared him; for he was very loth
 to incur his displeasure, which he would certainly do if he slew 
 Asahel. It is commendable for enemies to be thus respectful one to 
 another. Abner's care how he should lift up his face to Joab gives 
 cause to suspect that he really believed David would have the kingdom 
 at last, according to the divine designation, and then, in opposing 
 him, he acted against his conscience.
       
 III. How fatal Asahel's rashness was to him. He refused to turn aside, 
 thinking that Abner spoke so courteously because he feared him; but 
 what came of it? Abner, as soon as he came up to him, gave him his 
 death's wound with a back stroke 
 
 (2 Samuel 2:23):
 He smote him with the hinder end of his spear, from which he
 feared no danger. This was a pass which Asahel was not acquainted with, 
 nor had learned to stand upon his guard against; but Abner, perhaps, 
 had formerly used it, and done execution with it; and here it did 
 effectual execution. Asahel died immediately of the wound. See here, 
 1. How death often comes upon us by ways that we least suspect. Who
 would fear the hand of a flying enemy or the butt-end of a spear? yet 
 from these Asahel receives his death's wound. 
 2. How we are often betrayed by the accomplishments we are proud of.
 Asahel's swiftness, which he presumed so much upon, did him no 
 kindness, but forwarded his fate, and with it he ran upon his death, 
 instead of running from it. Asahel's fall was not only Abner's
 security from him, but put a full stop to the conqueror's pursuit and 
 gave Abner time to rally again; for all that came to the place stood 
 still, only Joab and Abishai, instead of being disheartened, were 
 exasperated by it, pursued Abner with so much the more fury
 (2 Samuel 2:24), 
 and overtook him at last about sunset, when the approaching night would
 oblige them to retire.
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
       
 25  And the children of Benjamin gathered themselves together
 after Abner, and became one troop, and stood on the top of an
 hill.
   26 Then Abner called to Joab, and said, Shall the sword devour
 for ever? knowest thou not that it will be bitterness in the
 latter end? how long shall it be then, ere thou bid the people
 return from following their brethren?
   27 And Joab said, As God liveth, unless thou hadst spoken,
 surely then in the morning the people had gone up every one from
 following his brother.
   28 So Joab blew a trumpet, and all the people stood still, and
 pursued after Israel no more, neither fought they any more.
   29 And Abner and his men walked all that night through the
 plain, and passed over Jordan, and went through all Bithron, and
 they came to Mahanaim.
   30 And Joab returned from following Abner: and when he had
 gathered all the people together, there lacked of David's
 servants nineteen men and Asahel.
   31 But the servants of David had smitten of Benjamin, and of
 Abner's men, so that three hundred and threescore men died.
   32 And they took up Asahel, and buried him in the sepulchre of
 his father, which was in Bethlehem. And Joab and his men went
 all night, and they came to Hebron at break of day.
 
 
       
 Here, 
 I. Abner, being conquered, meanly begs for a cessation of arms. He
 rallied the remains of his forces on the top of a hill
 (2 Samuel 2:25),
 as if he would have made head again, but becomes a humble supplicant to
 Joab for a little breathing-time, 
 
 2 Samuel 2:26.
 He that was most forward to fight was the first that had enough of it.
 He that made a jest of bloodshed (Let the young men arise and play 
 before us,
 2 Samuel 2:14)
 is now shocked at it, when he finds himself on the losing side, and the
 sword he made so light of drawing threatening to touch himself. Observe 
 how his note is changed. Then it was but playing with the sword; now, 
 Shall the sword devour for ever? It had devoured but one day, 
 yet to him it seemed forever, because it went against him; and very 
 willing he is now that the sun should not go down upon the wrath. Now 
 he can appeal to Joab himself concerning the miserable consequences of 
 a civil war: Knowest thou not that it will be bitterness in the 
 latter end? It will be reflected upon with regret when the account 
 comes to be made up; for, whoever gets in a civil war, the community is 
 sure to lose. Perhaps he refers to the bitterness that there was in the 
 tribes of Israel, in the end of their war with Benjamin, when they wept 
 sorely for the desolations which they themselves had made,
 Judges 21:2. 
 Now he begs of Joab to sound a retreat, and pleads that they were
 brethren, who ought not thus to bite and devour one another. He that in 
 the morning would have Joab bid the people fall upon their brethren now 
 would have him bid them lay down their arms. See here, 
 1. How easy it is for men to use reason when it makes for them who
 would not use it if it made against them. If Abner had been the 
 conqueror, we should not have had him complaining of the voraciousness 
 of the sword and the miseries of a civil war, nor pleading that both 
 sides were brethren; but, finding himself beaten, all these reasonings 
 are mustered up and improved for the securing of his retreat and the 
 saving of his scattered troops from being cut off. 
 2. How the issue of things alters men's minds. The same thing which
 looked pleasant in the morning at night looked dismal. Those that are 
 forward to enter into contention will perhaps repent it before they 
 have done with it, and therefore had better leave it off before it be 
 meddled with, as Solomon advises. It is true of every sin (O that men 
 would consider it in time!) that it will be bitterness in the latter 
 end. At the last it bites like a serpent those on whom it 
 fawned.
       
 II. Joab, though a conqueror, generously grants it, and sounds a 
 retreat, knowing very well his master's mind and how averse he was to 
 the shedding of blood. He does indeed justly upbraid Abner with his 
 forwardness to engage, and lays the blame upon him that there had been 
 so much bloodshed as there was 
 
 (2 Samuel 2:27):
 "Unless thou hadst spoken," that is, "hadst given orders to
 fight, hadst bidden the young men arise and play before us, none of us 
 would have struck a stroke, nor drawn a sword against our brethren. 
 Thou complainest that the sword devours, but who first unsheathed it? 
 Who began? Now thou wouldst have the people parted, but remember who 
 set them on to fight. We should have retired in the morning if thou
 hadst not given the challenge." Those that are forward to make mischief 
 are commonly the first to complain of it. This might have served to 
 excuse Joab if he had pushed on his victory, and made a full end of 
 Abner's forces; but like one that pitied the mistake of his 
 adversaries, and scorned to make an army of Israelites pay dearly for 
 the folly of their commander, he very honourably, by sound of trumpet, 
 put a stop to the pursuit
 (2 Samuel 2:28)
 and suffered Abner to make an orderly retreat. It is good husbandry to
 be sparing of blood. As the soldiers were here very obsequious to the 
 general's orders, so he, no doubt, observed the instructions of his 
 prince, who sought the welfare of all Israel and therefore not the hurt 
 of any.
       
 III. The armies being separated, both retired to the places whence they 
 came, and both marched in the night, Abner to Mahanaim, on the other 
 side Jordan 
 
 (2 Samuel 2:29),
 and Joab to Hebron, where David was, 
 
 2 Samuel 2:32.
 The slain on both sides are computed. On David's side only nineteen men
 were missing, besides Asahel
 (2 Samuel 2:30),
 who was worth more than all; on Abner's side 360, 
 
 2 Samuel 2:31.
 In civil wars formerly great slaughters had been made (as
 Judges 12:6,20,44),
 in comparison with which this was nothing. It is to be hoped that they
 had grown wiser and more moderate. Asahel's funeral is here mentioned;
 the rest they buried in the field of battle, but he was carried to 
 Bethlehem, and buried in the sepulchre of his father, 
 
 2 Samuel 2:32.
 Thus are distinctions made between the dust of some and that of others;
 but in the resurrection no other difference will be made but that 
 between godly and ungodly, which will remain for ever.
  
Matthew Henry "Verse by Verse Commentary for '2 Samuel' Matthew Henry Bible Commentary". 
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